Things I have learned since being married

I've only been married just over a year now but boy have I learned a lot. Here's just a few things.

+ Life keeps happening after the wedding. And you aren't newlyweds forever. It's weird. Your whole life you talk about getting married someday. You get engaged and it's allll you think about ever. You plan every single minute tiny tiny detail and then the day happens. And you wake up the next morning and life is still happening. And for awhile you can dwell in those newlywed "ahhh just got married" feelings and obviously it's good to reflect back on how lovely the day was. But it's also important to move on with your life and live it as a married person, and not just live your wedding day over and over again for the rest of your life.

+ The wedding stops mattering. And what I mean is that all the little things stop mattering. Who came stops mattering. The dresses, your hair, the music played, the cake... it all stops mattering. What matters is that you got married to someone you love and that you're going to be married forever.

+ You don't actually become different when you get married. You aren't all the sudden a person who likes laundry, cooking, cleaning, and scrapbooking. (I have a sneaking suspicion I will find this true when I become a mom, too)

+ You have the capability to filter your thoughts before you speak them and you should do so.

+ Your wedding day may be the biggest wonderful-est day of your life, but there are other great days too. I loved my anniversary weekend and it was way less exhausting than my wedding day. I have loved every day since being married just as much, if not more, than my actual wedding day because I spent it with my husband in our house, with our things. Wedding day was amazing and wonderful and the start of all these things, but actually living life as a happily married couple has been even more fun for me.

+ The only times Andrew and I have ever bickered or snapped at each other are when we are trying to get ready to go to the temple. I wasn't expecting that. Someone really does not want us to have those blessings. (And we are not going to give him that satisfaction!)

+ The way you feel about your boyfriend is different from the way you feel about your fiancee is very different from the way you feel about your spouse after a year of marriage. It's all love. And it's all meaningful. But I've found that there are different ways you can love someone. And I really appreciate that.

More installments to come, I am sure. :)